We've been talking about broadening our horizons for years, but we don't know what we want yet. She has talked about having an "affair" with my knowledge and approval, and it turns us both on, in bed. However, out of bed, we realise it's probably not as simple as it seems. We're looking for someone to talk to about this, initially. Maybe you're a husband or wife that's done something similar, successfully or not. Maybe you've been invited into a couple's sexlife in some way, and can give some insight. Either way, you should be patient, and not expect too much - however, if all goes well, and you seem "right" for us*, who knows? She knows I'm advertising, but not the details. She wants me to make the running for now. Yes, she's hedging her bets. I need some help with that too, maybe. \\\\\\\\\\\\\\* I clearly need to think about what "right for us" means, exactly.