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Coerced Into Having Sex
Coerced Into Having Sex When you read the title what were you thinking…? Were you thinking about a woman being coerced into having sex by a man? Well sorry to disappoint, but this post is about the exact opposite, females coercing males into sexual behavior... it more common than you think. I read an article several months back, about an academic study of young men being coerced into having sex by sexually aggressive females. According to the article published by the APA journal of Psychology of Men and Masculinity, 43 percent of high school boys and young college men, indicate they have had unwanted sexual experiences, and 95% said a female acquaintance was the aggressor. 18 percent reported the sexual coercion was by physical force; 26 % described unwanted seduction by sexual behaviors; 7 % after being given drugs or alcohol; and 31 % said it was by verbal coercion. Now verbal coercion, (or at least an attempt at verbal coercion), I have witness or at least heard firsthand. Back in the 1980s in my university days, I returned to my dorm room late one night, to hear my best friend trying to talk his way out of having sex with a girl, who aggressively wanted him as her boyfriend, (he was just beginning to see someone else). At the time I thought it was the funniest thing ever, so I rounded up a few other friends and we listened closely. She had some of the best closing material ever, and my friend was scrambling to rebut her argument. Anyway the study, found that half of the coerced men had intercourse, 10 % reported an attempt to have intercourse and 40% had just fondling and kissing. The study used statements to measure the different types of coercion activities. Examples of coercion included “My partner threatened to stop seeing me” for verbal; “My partner encouraged me to drink alcohol and then took advantage of me” for substance; “My partner threatened to use or did use a weapon” for physical; and “My partner has tried to interest me by sexually touching but I was not interested” for seduction. The findings revealed a need for more scientific study of the thin line between sexual seduction and sexual coercion. And interesting difference between males being coerced into sex and females is that the male victims’ self-esteem doesn’t seem to diminished as a result of the incident. Thoughts Find pleasure in giving pleasure |
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Oh please...a man has a switch and if it is not turned on NOTHING can happen!
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I once came across a woman who claimed they had r aped a man. My mind boggled!
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I'm sitting here wondering where I might find someone willing to coerce me. I can't even remember all the times I must have whined and wheedled to get sex from girls. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. I think I must have been a little diminished by those encounters. The real ego boost comes from the potential partner tearing her clothes off, can't wait to get at you. If I can locate a volunteer, I will happily collect data and report back to you about my feelings. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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Uuuummmmm...... Aaahhhh...... Mmmmmmm ..... Speechless. I wish I was in that difficult position. I promise I won't tell. Fun and Pleasure in Sunny Side Singapore. Come visit my blog and let's chat and explore.
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Yes find a new partner But I guess like someone men with some women it all about conquest. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Oh please...a man has a switch and if it is not turned on NOTHING can happen! Do you give him a free pass. Not always so simple, unless you are one who like to apply double standards and stereotypes when it is convenient to do so. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I once came across a woman who claimed they had r aped a man. My mind boggled! Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I'm sitting here wondering where I might find someone willing to coerce me. I can't even remember all the times I must have whined and wheedled to get sex from girls. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. I think I must have been a little diminished by those encounters. The real ego boost comes from the potential partner tearing her clothes off, can't wait to get at you. If I can locate a volunteer, I will happily collect data and report back to you about my feelings. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I wonder what the percentage of men who HAVEN'T been coerced BUT wanted to be is? Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Uuuummmmm...... Aaahhhh...... Mmmmmmm ..... Speechless. I wish I was in that difficult position. I promise I won't tell. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Uncle! Uncle! I am sure you could find someone I don't want to have sex with! Although the field has narrowed somewhat the last couple of decades. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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I do remember as an 11 year old, a physically mature 14 year girl attempting to kiss me as we walked home. I didn't know her very well, and the advance was completely unexpected, flattering, but extremely unnerving for me at the time. I avoiding being anywhere near her after that. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Uncle! Uncle! I am sure you could find someone I don't want to have sex with! Although the field has narrowed somewhat the last couple of decades. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Coerced to do something you did NOT want to do, young graduate Ben ? A "thin line between sexual seduction and sexual coercion" ??? Gees and my blog post clearly states Seduction isn't making someone do what they don't want to do. It is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already." Methinks the keyword is enticing (ie tempt, lure, allure, attract). Then again, as Mae West was fond of saying "Seduction? I wrote the story myself. It's about a girl who lost her reputation and never missed it." Have had it happen, the seduction/alluring bit; unless you count a previously unkown woman walking up to me at the bar and whispering "Do you want to fuck?" in my ear as coercion. No, I have never been coerced into having sex. Yes, Mrs Robinson, we can do that but can I finish my drink first?. pssst That pic is from a very old movie (1967). How times have changed. It isn't consider untoward now, except by the naive puritans. Come visit openagenda: provocative thought, adult discussions, sexy pics & giggles. Is This How Friday The GET IT ON Solution MASSAGE exploring partners SEDUCTION Love What is it Relationship Rules Trust and other Issues Essence Be In Tune Does Size Matter The Facts Hand in Hand
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Seduction isn't coercion, in my opinion. Alcohol, I don't really buy either. Alcohol may lower inhibitions, but men don't typically function very well sexually when they've had too much to drink. aka "Whisky Dick." I've heard a lot of women claim to have been r-ped or d-r-ped, and I don't buy it. Unless there was a weapon, they knocked you unconscious, Roofied you, or are holding your kids hostage - if you don't have physical bruises, scrapes, and rug burns, you consented. This "coercion" language is a really bad idea. People are free to say yes or no to sex. Giving in to pressure, feeling bad for someone, being seduced is NOT coercion.
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Coerced to do something you did NOT want to do, young graduate Ben ? A "thin line between sexual seduction and sexual coercion" ??? Gees and my blog post clearly states Seduction isn't making someone do what they don't want to do. It is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already." Methinks the keyword is enticing (ie tempt, lure, allure, attract). Then again, as Mae West was fond of saying "Seduction? I wrote the story myself. It's about a girl who lost her reputation and never missed it." Have had it happen, the seduction/alluring bit; unless you count a previously unkown woman walking up to me at the bar and whispering "Do you want to fuck?" in my ear as coercion. No, I have never been coerced into having sex. Yes, Mrs Robinson, we can do that but can I finish my drink first?. pssst That pic is from a very old movie (1967). How times have changed. It isn't consider untoward now, except by the naive puritans. If the woman who whispering "do you want to fuck" pressed a gun into you back as she said it, or prefaced the statement with, "I will ruin your career", and had the ability to do so, would that be coercion or enticement as you call it? Stand upright brother, stand upright. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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It's an important distinction of how we are socialized. Sex is still see as women "giving it up" and men as "taking it". If I had to make an educated guess, that would be the reasons the men studied don't feel the stigma... As one commenter point out, a women just having to have you as a man no matter what, is still seen as a badge of honor. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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I'm not at all sure about this. If the man really did not want to have sex with the woman, or if he were threatened and there was an element of fear there....I don't see how he would have an erection. Maybe he could be coerced to do other stuff like oral....but full sex.....I have my doubts. ~~Anais Nin~~
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Your anology makes no sense in regards to my point...try again.
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You have complete missed the point... or you are naïve to believe that men can't be coerced into sex. Men (women too) have been coerced into marriages, which is a much longer term an more involved commitment. The picture the Graduate, does ride the fine line, between seduction and coercion, that's who I choose it. If the woman who whispering "do you want to fuck" pressed a gun into you back as she said it, or prefaced the statement with, "I will ruin your career", and had the ability to do so, would that be coercion or enticement as you call it? Stand upright brother, stand upright. "I will ruin your career." ??? Gees, guys who take on new, strange (no pun) women are always putting their career against the wall. To think otherwise is naive ... or worse. Nope, I did not miss the point at all. lil_whimsical and I are on the same page. 1chelle is correct. A dick can NOT be made to be involuntarily hard and long. Incentive must be given for the blood to pump. sexysixties2 correctly promotes common physiological sense. Seduction is NOT coercion. Enticement is NOT coercion. The closest thing to coercion (in North America) is BD SM and its bondage (pun intended) and IF you converse with practicioners you will find one word that is prevalent - TRUST. BT - DT. Come visit openagenda: provocative thought, adult discussions, sexy pics & giggles. Is This How Friday The GET IT ON Solution MASSAGE exploring partners SEDUCTION Love What is it Relationship Rules Trust and other Issues Essence Be In Tune Does Size Matter The Facts Hand in Hand
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Always a new world when I see things like that.. hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I'm not at all sure about this. If the man really did not want to have sex with the woman, or if he were threatened and there was an element of fear there....I don't see how he would have an erection. Maybe he could be coerced to do other stuff like oral....but full sex.....I have my doubts. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Your anology makes no sense in regards to my point...try again. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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Khu, given I am and always have been a formidable presence physically, I doubt short of a gun (illegal in Canada) I could be coerced by a female. "I will ruin your career." ??? Gees, guys who take on new, strange (no pun) women are always putting their career against the wall. To think otherwise is naive ... or worse. Nope, I did not miss the point at all. lil_whimsical and I are on the same page. 1chelle is correct. A dick can NOT be made to be involuntarily hard and long. Incentive must be given for the blood to pump. sexysixties2 correctly promotes common physiological sense. Seduction is NOT coercion. Enticement is NOT coercion. The closest thing to coercion (in North America) is BD SM and its bondage (pun intended) and IF you converse with practicioners you will find one word that is prevalent - TRUST. BT - DT. Open, I too am formidable physically imposing presence... all men are not. Your experience and view point in not the same for all men. To believe otherwise is foolish or arrogant (take you pick). Seduction and coercion have different definitions, there are not the same because the topic is sex. You can choose to see it as the same in your situation, other's see it differently. When looking at sexual coercion, the criteria can't be different based on the gender of the victim. Find pleasure in giving pleasure
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