The frailty of the human mind
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Posted:Sep 28, 2013 8:19 am
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2013 3:40 pm
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I am dejected. I am depressed. I am disillusioned. I am disgusted.
That's just for starters.
What follows is a familiar tale on here or any other swingers site, but when I get put in this situation I like to vent by writing things down and then taking soundings.
First. It happened on another site, but I don't want to post this there. I may do so under an assumed name.
I met a couple online two years ago. We seemed to hit it off and chatted and cammed on a semi-regular basis. One day the female half said they'd like to chat further "to see where it leads". It led to nothing. No big deal, thought I. They changed their profile names entirely twice, but we bumped into each other and continued to be friendly.
About two months ago our cam contact became more frequent. I would see them in a chatroom and they would immediately view me and we would play (well she writhed seductively to music - he never appeared). It got hotter and hotter until one night we swapped skype names and clapped eyes on each other after a mutual masturbation session (again, her & I alone).
Finally came the offer. "We'd like to take this further." Naturally I said yes. A "drink" was arranged. Then he sent me the address - a hotel outside London. Hmmmmmm, thinks I. Not exactly a drink. He and I have a LONG chat on skype about the play rules (so is this a drink only or not?) He keeps saying "I'm sure we'll be fine." So, we now know, implicitly, that the bedroom beckons. I should say at this point I am married. It's not on my profile (I have since changed this) and he hasn't asked me, even though I keep checking he's had all his questions answered.
We meet. Have a drink. I tell them I can't stay the whole night, and this seems to be accepted. Go to their room. Start playing. She is, I admit, gorgeous, and certainly loves the attention of two men. I am, admittedly, a little nervous, with the inevitable result of a semi-erection, not helped by the need to wear a condom even for oral sex (I'm not complaining - it's their call). I don't let it bother me and she seems happy to let us explore her with fingers and tongues and his cock.
Two-and-a-half hours fly by. I leave. The following day I sent them a note saying how flattered I was they chose to spend time with me. They respond in kind. I'm a happy man.
Then they got weird.
A few days later they're on cam. So am I. They're not watching. They're monosyllabic. Strange, thinks I, but hey, maybe they're watching someone else. A couple of days later, in the chatroom, he's very uncommunicative. You can guess the rest. They've starting to distance themselves from me. I write a note. "Hi we haven't really chatted much lately. Is everything ok?" I get a "Been busy with work and family stuff. Hope you're well."
That last sentence is a killer. I know, now, that they are moving on. There's no "let's talk again soon", or "we'd like to see you again". It's cold and it's hurtful - yet why should I care? I'm not looking for an emotional attachment.
How do I respond to this? What I should have done is remained "friends" and just maintain the silence, after all, I haven't been rude. Instead I bumped them off the friends list I have and named and shamed in a status update - effectively eliminating all future contact and the chance to maybe find out what the problem was. Of course, this is just me beating myself up for failing to rise above it and leaving them to it - I know they were never going to explain themselves.
These sites are a tough place and I know I should toughen up. But that's hard when you spend 2 years getting to know people and then they just cast you aside without an explanation. I'm struggling to understand what I did that was wrong after agreeing to everything they asked of me. I find this exhausting after all the effort.
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Help a fellow blogger fight Passion
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Posted:Mar 24, 2011 12:27 pm
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2011 3:01 am
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Synndarella, a blogging pal, is having a (very) rough time at the hands of the loons who run this site [post 2587178].
Post your thoughts to the authorities here and help her out.
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Apologies for the radio silence
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Posted:Feb 23, 2011 3:23 pm
Last Updated:Sep 28, 2013 7:52 am
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I've been reading so many posts on other blogs that I really haven't had time to write anything myself. My laptop also gave up the ghost and I've only just fixed it (all by myself!!). The well feels a little dry right now, but I hope to be boring you all real soon xxx
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To bi or not to bi....what a question
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Posted:Jan 14, 2011 5:34 am
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2013 12:47 pm
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I have a friend I chat with online regularly. We've met once. I like her filthy, and I mean fucking filthy, mind. We send each other links to porn and then get on cam...well you can guess the rest. Hey, it works for us.
One day, she said she wanted to watch me being sucked off by a guy and then we would DP her. The latter part of this I found attractive, the former? Well let's just say I pondered this for a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time. For the record, it hasn't happened.
I mentioned it in my profile and got a LOT of offers. More in a week than I've had from women in three years on here. Flattered and dispirited at the same time. Confusion reigns. She's not pushy, and so has never forced the issue. Recently she sent a link of a vid with a stunning blonde in a threesome with two bi guys. It was kind of hot, but I don't know if it was the presence of a good looking girl that was turning me on.
I know lots of women, mostly on here, who LOVE the idea of two bi guys and have sampled it in one way or another. One has done the dp thing with them as well (she tells me everything  . I think it's cool - no different to a guy's threesome with 2 bi girls.
Has anyone else had a similar experience? I don't consider myself to be in the "curious" category...
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The female epic fail and time for a break
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Posted:Dec 31, 2010 7:59 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2011 4:02 pm
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I read a blog today about a guy who sends emails that are effectively cut and paste jobs. The poor moron even admits that he has done this, so he deserved the payout the blogger gave him (although I thought it got a bit pompous - we all know the shenanigans that go on on this site). The guy was given an "epic fail" for his attempt. Again, fair enough, but the tone of some of the replies from men about this was almost as bad, and, frankly, bordered on the sychophantic with undertones of "if I make enough soothing noises about this she might fuck me instead".
Men, where is your dignity? The fuckwit that cuts and pastes his approaches is an idiot. The man that writes "wanna fuck" is beyond help. But it seems to me that, on occasion, the man who is polite but has failed to become a cyber mind-reader inside two sentences is lumped in with the aforementioned knuckle draggers.
I had the following exchange yesterday: I paged a local woman on here and said: "I enjoyed your cam the other day."
She responded (much to my delight that she bothered at all): "Thank you. I'm glad x"
Me: "My pleasure. You have a lovely body. Thanks for sharing."
Her: "That's ok."
Me: "Tell me what you're looking for (fair question as I'm a standard member).
Her: "To be entertained in any and all ways."
Me: "Fair enough. Tell me more."
Now everyone knows that the instant messenger on this site is shit, as she had left the chatroom a couple of times without saying anything and confirmed that it was playing up. But then she said: "sorry, not picking up messages."
Me: "That's ok, annoying message system. How can I entertain you today."
XXXX has left the chatroom.
I paged again: "Have we crashed?" No answer. I rebooted, tried again. "XXXX has received your page but has not yet responded" Then they were't available. I tried again and got: "your message has been declined".
Ok, I can take a hint, but this kind of obtuse behaviour can get under your skin. I fired back a simple "rude" and shut down. I was angry and felt I had a right to be. I'm not abusive, I don't lash out and I move on pretty quick. The anger is more centered on the fact that I actually didn't do much wrong there and a simple "thanks but no thanks" would have sufficed.
So - xxxgal - you are an EPIC FAIL.
In the intervening hours I've started to wonder whether I should just not bother looking on here. It's too much hard work just to get a response from someone in the fist instance and I'm kinda enjoying reading the blogs (well most of them bar a couple) I do follow more than the other stuff. Even basic contact like the one in the London chatroom I have described on here can get fraught.
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Verified profile pic poll
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Posted:Dec 22, 2010 12:21 pm
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2011 8:16 am
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Ok - after my rant about the opinion of some in a chatroom to call one of my profile pics "nasty" I've decided to open up to suggestions on a pic for verification here.
Two regular readers reckon I should write my handle in jam across my chest. I kinda like that idea - even better if I had someone to help put it on and take it off, but that could be a whole other post.
Anyway, the floor, as they say, is yours....
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Profile pics and prudes...
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Posted:Dec 16, 2010 10:04 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2010 1:53 am
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I have 2 profile pics - the three people that read this blog and a few of my real friends on here have seen it. A few on other sites I frequent have seen it as well.
One is of my torso - semi-nude. No cock.
The other is a still of a video I did of me cumming.
Most of my friends here quite like the second one. It's a hard core effort, and, a little different. It always provokes a comment, and I'm flattered when people make nice comments (I am a male after all).
All this changes when I get into one local chatroom. On more than one occasion I've been in there chatting politely to one or two people in there and I get a blast.
Today - after complementing someone on THEIR picture I got the following:
Woman 1: "I think your picture is NASTY."
Me: "You don't like it then?"
woman 2: "I'm afraid I don't. I don't like cum shots - and I don't like dick pics."
This caused a mini stampede (intended by woman 1) for others in the room to have a gawp and then slag the offending protrait off. The tone of conversation then took on the character of a couple of extras out of Coronation Street sharing a fag over the back fence as they hang out the washing,
Woman 2 now wades in (unasked): "I have to agree with you there xxx (name withheld to protect the ignorant). I don't like dick pics either. I think they're ugly."
Me: "well it certainly seems to divide opinion"
Woman 2 to woman 1: "I only like them when they're looking at me and pleased to see me."
Me: "Thought you said they were ugly."
Woman 2: "They are ugly."
At this point I decided I would keep my temper and write this blog instead to get it off my chest. It's not the first time it's happened in that room, and I've had one or two comments on blogs where I've posted, but here's the rub (and I am laughing as I write this, honestly):
It's my fucking pic and if you don't like it don't fucking look at it. I don't comment on the artistic merits of photos I don't like - and fuck me, there are plenty on here that are far worse than my little effort. And THAT includes a few of my aforementioned critics in the London room.
Did I just say that out loud?
Ooops.
I will agree it's not everyone's cup of tea and is currently not on show.
Guys - has anyone every given you a spray over your pic? What did they say? I'm an equal opportunity blogger, so, girls, your views too.
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Winter pruning season
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Posted:Nov 26, 2010 8:55 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2010 3:30 pm
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This is a bit of a rant. It's my blog, so I figured I can have one too seeing as others get it off their chest.
I looked at my profile and saw I had 103 "friends". Then I looked closer and realised that of these 103, I hardly spoke to any of them. Some are overseas and we watch on cam, but others with names like "fucktoy412" and "juicyjessie" never seem to respond to a page or a message.
So the shears came out.....
fuck you all...I suspect a good portion of you are fakers...or have no intention of making contact here...you are timewasting, spacewasting, sad arseholes with no real meaning to your miserable cyber existence. On your bike sexychimera, stay on the shelf unused fucktoy....and beware the rest of the list...I'm sharpening the shears again. Speak up or be lopped off lol
Ok, ok, a bit over the top I know, but I'm sure you've shared similar frustrations.
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When NSA suddenly grows strings - a g string...
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Posted:Nov 20, 2010 4:32 am
Last Updated:Sep 29, 2013 7:09 am
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I met someone on here (yes, it can happen, even for me). Sexy horny gal. Impromptu after a chat. A drink and a playful romp.
We chatted once or twice and then she mentioned some sexy lingerie she wanted (very sexy stuff and expensive, I might add). I laughed and wished her luck with her purchase, but she became slightly more insistent and our (text) conversation ended.
We've not really spoken since, but women I do chat to on here and another place thought this behaviour odd. As one of my favourite female mates put it: "Oh you buy it and then some other bloke will peel it off and fuck her."
Then I noticed someone on here make a similar request via their blog and I wondered if NSA really does what it says on the tin.
I'm confused (frequently), but my discussions with sexy lady 1 were pretty clear about what we both wanted, which is why we hit it off, and sexy lady 2 (whom I have never and will never meet) seems the independent type.
If NSA has g-strings attached what are the rules???
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Cloning my cock - an ongoing saga
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Posted:Oct 16, 2010 9:50 am
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2010 4:57 am
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A few months ago I bought one of those clone-a-cock kits with the intention of making a dildo for someone I know online (we've never met, but boy, I'd really like to.
After some discussion of how much she'd like a copy of my cock, I mustered up the courage and found one in a sex shop. I must admit I was amazed at how many fit young women (and young couples) were there during their lunch hour (seriously). Things have certainly changed!
Anyway, I paid my money and brought the kit home. Then I did some serious research, and I've been unable to look at the damn thing since. The atomic bomb looks easier to put together. The mixing, temperature and timing requirements while maintaining an erection leave very little margin for error.
It's almost starting to haunt me. The kit sits there, taunting..."go on....mix the ingredients....get a hard-on....make sure the water is at the right temperature...then watch it all go tits up as the mix starts to harden while your cock does the opposite hahahahahahahaha......"
It's driving me crazy, not least because I really want to see this exquisite woman pleasure herself with it, and I mean REALLY....
Help!
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Message board
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Posted:Oct 12, 2010 9:54 am
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2010 3:38 am
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Thought I'd use this bit to let people contact me as I'm only a standard member. No abuse thanks
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Top fan
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Posted:Jul 3, 2014 4:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2014 9:59 am
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Does anyone else think the "top fan" thing is a stupid idea?
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To tell or not to tell...
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Posted:Sep 9, 2010 10:02 am
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2010 2:42 am
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I was driving down the road recently and stopped at a zebra crossing to let a lady cross. As I looked up I realised it was someone I had seen on here. I was transfixed and distracted for a good while after.
It led me to ponder: what is the etiquette here? I certainly wasn't going to wind down the window and yell something, but I did wonder about mentioning it next time they were online. In the end I did, and I hope to god she didn't see it. There was certainly no response, but I felt like a moron as soon as I paged her.
Have you ever seen anyone from here in a chance encounter?
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