As of 2/2012 I am legally separated.

I am going to try and be really clear about who I am, what I am looking for and what I have to offer and see perhaps if I can find it here….if not, so be it and I’ll look elsewhere. No harm, no foul.

There are some of you who have watched my profile for a while and some of you who are just finding my profile. To those of you who have seen my profile over the years, you know I have lost a lot of weight, and had a tummy tuck and boob lift in November of 2010. I worked really hard at improving my body and while I never had a problem with the way I looked and enjoyed myself a great deal – I am truly enjoying the way I look now and what my new body offers

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I am a now separated (2/2012), successful business owner. I keep an apartment in Bel Air, MD and I can host and only do so in the EVENINGS. I do not play during the day since I need to be at work, running that successful business!

I was married for 22 years and in the lifestyle for over 12 years in an open marriage. But now I am on my own and looking to start over.

That being said – I am looking for a BOYFRIEND.

I know…….really? Did I say that out loud? I AM LOOKING FOR A REAL LOVER - NOT A GAME PLAYER; NOT CHAT. I want someone who can meet AT LEAST WEEKLY in the evening. If you can meet more than once a week sometimes, that would be nice too. If you can meet on the weekends, that would be nice.

I am looking for someone who wants to go out to dinner, grab a movie, go for a drive, chat, laugh, spend time together …. Oh yeah – and fuck like rabbits.

I LOVE SEX – no doubt about it. But I think you also have to have a good chemistry for the sex to really be good. I can go on for hours in bed (yea I have references if you really want them) but I have yet to meet a man who can really, TRULY, go on for hours without a break. And during that break we need to have something to do. Whether it be grabbing a bite to eat, playing cards, watching a movie, cuddling and talking, laughing…..but whatever it is, we should do more than stare at the walls or it is seriously uncomfortable.

I’m also going to say that since I keep the apartment and pay for it, which I gladly do, I think it is only fair that you contribute something to the relationship as well and dinner, a movie, going out….well that seems fair to me. I’m not talking anything fancy and I don’t need to be wined and dined – but we DO all need to eat, right?

I also have the luxury of being able to travel if you do. If you travel for work, I can travel with you – If you travel for leisure – that is a possibility too. It is not a requirement but something that I do enjoy.

So what am I looking for in a man?

I am looking for someone who lives locally. That means within a comfortable driving distance to see each other regularly. And unfortunately, I am not going to come to you……since I keep the apartment. Locally is in Harford County, MD – PLEASE BE LOCAL.

I am not looking for someone who is only here for a short time – either on base or for work or just passing through. I really am looking for someone who lives here. I know we never know how long we will be anywhere but if you are only here temporarily – then it really can’t be anything more than a short term relationship.

I am looking for someone taller than I am. I am 5’9”, a BBW with red hair and green eyes and I LOVE to wear high heels. Take that for what it’s worth! I also love to wear lingerie, role play, take pictures, take videos, be naughty in public ….. I am a bit of an adventurous handful but perhaps just what you are looking for?

I do prefer darker gentlemen but that surely does not rule anyone out.

I want a lover that has a nice cock. Sorry. You do NOT need to be huge - but I want at LEAST 6" and a nice girth.

I always play safe - no exceptions. I am looking for someone who can keep a hard on WITH A CONDOM ON. I am not looking to give you a BJ to show that I like you. I can suck a mean cock. And will do it as a part of playing if we click. BUT I do not want to hear excuses about why you can not stay hard with a condom on. I play safe only and if you can not fuck with a condom on - we are just not going to make it work. I mean that.

I want a lover who isn't "once and done" and who can last more than 1 or 2 minutes. Seriously folks - it is just not satisfying to have you TRY and fuck with a half hard cock for a good minute or two and then you are happy and done. NOT WORKING FOR ME.

Cleanliness counts fellas! Take a shower before we meet. Or if you can't and you come over to my apartment - then feel free to help yourself to a washcloth and soap in the bathroom. Yep - the apartment actually has hot and cold running water and I have plenty of good old soap and washcloths and even nice fluffy towels. How you smell and taste matters. Seriously. I'll be all scrubbed clean - please be the same for me.

More than anything else I want someone who can read this information and really, really, really, is who they say they are and can meet what I am looking for. I am NOT looking for Superman OR Superstud. I am looking for someone who is looking for a LTR with some passion. I am not interested in bed hopping. I want ONE lover to spend time with on a regular basis.

Say hi and tell me something about yourself and I will say hi back!

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE meet my requests - I don't think they are unreasonable.....if you do - you can tell me.

My Ideal Person: I am 50, 5'10" BBW, big chest, red hair. I am now, have always been, and always will be, disease and drug free and expect the same. I don't drink or smoke and prefer non-smokers. I am VERY sexually adventurous, fun, outgoing and looking for added fun - not "a thrill a minute" but potentially a long term friendship with a lot more. I just LOVE playing with tall, DARK and handsome men - YUMMMMMY! But more important than that - I am looking for a friend and a lover. I am looking for a boyfriend - someone to grab a bite to eat, then go fuck our brains out - not necessarily in that order. I am NOT looking for a young stud, but rather a man with experience who knows what it takes to please a woman AND IS WILLING TO DO IT. I promise to take care of you too - but only if I am taken care of as well. If you understand what I am saying, then we are half way there already!

I believe in having a good time in whatever you happen to be doing and carry that philosophy into the bedroom (or wherever I play). I believe in the overall erotic enjoyment that comes from bondage, related activities and fantasies that bring enjoyment to each other. Not into real pain - just light fun pain. I believe in pleasure and pleasure enhancement that comes from toys, exploring fantasies and experimenting. Sincerity, respect, desire, and discretion are extremely important. Communication in the bedroom is important so that everyone leaves HAPPY.

Please do NOT contact me if you are married - since I am no longer married I no longer want to work around your wifes schedule.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A movie theatre

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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