This is the first time I've really been single since I was 21. After my 7 year marriage ended, I moved to Bend, and I casually dated for about a year. Then I fell into a one-sided, obsessive (on his part) relationship that dragged on and on for over a decade.(It ended 3 years ago.) I may not know exactly what I want in a man, but based on my past relationships, I know what I definitely DO NOT want in a man. As far as the type of relationship I'm seeking: At 41, I must admit I worry about growing old alone. But I'd rather be alone than trapped in a bad relationship. Sure, I'd love to find my "soulmate"; who wouldn't? Realistically, however, I know that there are far fewer fish in the pond at 41 than there were at 21. (Ah...wasted youth!!!) The only thing I really miss from my previous two relationships is having an active, healthy sex life. So, a mutually satisfying, commitment free, "no strings" sexual relationship, with an age appropriate, single or married man is definitely something I'd pursue. However, I'm not looking for anonymous, emotionless sex. I need to be able to develop at least a comradery, a friendship with my lover. Intellectual stimulation and a great sense of humor is always a bonus, too. (Note to married men: Discretion is a forgone conclusion with me. It's simply understood.) So, although I'm keeping an eye out for Mr. Right, I'm not about to close the door on Mr. Right Now.

My Ideal Person: A man between the ages of 37 and 57 who's fun, clever, witty, sexy, creative, considerate, responsible, honest, and STD free. Bigots, whiners, stalkers, spineless whiners, chauvenists and man-babies need not appy.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Concrete Blonde; Guns and Roses; Concrete Blonde; Heart;
INXS; The Doors; The Eagles; Carly Simon; .

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Being in a bar or a casino, and seeing a man with his wife.
We make eye contact. Then he comes my way, casually, brushing
against me. I see him go to the front desk of the lobby. A few
minutes later, an employee of the establishment comes
up to me and hands me a piece of paper and a room key. The note
says, "I'm waiting. Come now." I enter
the room and we have mindblowing sex, all the while his wife
is oblivious, down in the casino or shopping or something.
Another fantasy is simply finding someone who isn't
a psycho deviant, who is funny and smart and warm and with
whom I "click".

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Blindfolds, Massage

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Vincent D'Onofrio of "Law and Order, Criminal
Intent" Big, strong, and all night long. Col. Mu'ammar
al-Qaddaffi, leader of Libya. I've been in love with
him since I was 19 years old. Long story.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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