update. was living in london for 1 year,will be coming back to oklahoma city by feb 5 again.

here is a bit about my background. i came to the US about twenty years ago from Germany as the bride of a serviceman. After our marriage ended, i began to find myself drawn to this lifestyle. About two years into my journey i met my first (and so far only) Master. The two and one half years i spent with him were the happiest i have lived so far. In the two years since His death i have tried to place myself with another Master, but with no success. i don’t know if it is because English is my second language or not, but i seem to have trouble communicating where i am in my slavery and what i need in a Master.



First of all, i am not ready for Poly or a Mistress and don’t know if i ever will be. i was in a one-on-one M/s relationship that worked well. He was an alpha male and territorial. i was NOT to be shared with anyone, i was His alone. i know that a Master/slave relationship is not a boyfriend/girlfriend, but i need to know my Master has feelings and cares for me before i can become his property, for if i can not love Him i can not serve Him. This is what i know and seek.



i also know that right now i am ‘a hand full’. Life has made me strong and i need a stronger Master with an iron fist and time to devote to my training. i also know that He will need a velvet glove and the wisdom to know which one i need at any one time. i am not a perfect slave yet and embarrass myself at times when things just slip out of my mouth. i need someone with structure and training He can guide me to and the patience to grow me through it. i want to be a perfect slave, but i need an inspiring Master to lead me to the eventual TPE and IE that is my heart’s desire.

My Ideal Person: I'm looking in a person,that he can be honest and friendly too.Know to have fun and that he likes to laugh a lot. Also would like ,if he likes to try new things out.I also search for a Dom or Master,that is strict and caring also.He needs to be a real Dom or Master.Don't look for wannabe's.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A rollercoaster, The beach, The middle of a park, A dark back alley, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub, A store dressing room, An elevator

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Leather, Latex

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Experience in a certain role (top/bottom; master/slave), Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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