update: If you're just looking for a FBuddy... move on. I have plenty of opportunities (if I want them) and I'm not looking to add more. Please only write me if you're interested in long term dating and possible future of marriage and kids.

Read my profile before you waste your time. I'm not going to reply to those who don't.

Yes, I know this is a sex site. I believe it can be whatever we want it to be. I've met some really nice men here. I'm a normal, stable (really!), sexual gal who would ultimately love to have it all: sex, love, marriage and children. I'm not like most women here. I'm NOT here to have sex with a different man every night. I'm NOT looking for NSA. Quality... not quantity. Once I find that special man I might be interested in other sexual options with him and possibly others. I am curious about swinging and sharing (although I've never done it) but ONLY after a stable relationship with one man has been established.

I'm intelligent, classy, independent, cerebral, confident & sophisticated. Very open and honest, straightforward... communication is huge for me. I am on the shy side at first. I was a late bloomer. I've been told I'm an amazing kisser. I make great guacamole and chicken soup Anything else you want to know feel free to ask.

WHAT I'm LOOKING FOR: (I put this here because I know most do not read profiles) You're intelligent, educated, clean-cut, classy, confident without being cocky or pushy (really, no pun intended). Good hygiene. No heavy cologne--I am very sensitive to smells. STD free. A great kisser--It's a deal-breaker for me. I like a man who takes charge in the bedroom, but you've got to get into my brain first. That is the biggest turn on for me. You also have to let me into your head (the one on your neck).

WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile, pictures, or web cams in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.

I have pictures of my face and body to be shared with a select few. I'm no skinny LA girl, so if a size 2 is what you're after, I'm not it. I have long brown hair, big expressive brown eyes and a smile that lights up the room. I do yoga and workout at least 4 times a week but I also like to eat... pizza, sushi, steak.. but I love salad too. No starving model here

I take my own erotic photos--I am a photographer & graphic designer. I consider myself a New Yorker as I lived there for 20 years before I moved here 2 years ago. I'll never lose that edge, but I'm very easy going and approachable in person. I think I'm at my cutest right before I get into bed when I'm in my pjs and my face is washed... Well at least before I put the day-glo pink pimple cream on Yes, I can do the little black dress too

I just have to say this...
I can tell most of you are NOT reading my profile by the content of your emails. The way to my body is through my mind. If you don't pay attention and stimulate my mind you will get NOWHERE with me. It may sound like there are a lot of 'rules' here but I built my profile based on the emails I've received.

Speaking of which... some of you will get a laugh out of these (unedited) emails I've received. Maybe then you will have a better idea why I try to keep these kind of men from contacting me. They made me laugh but I would never respond to them...

"whatz good sexy? you are lookin fine! let me know if you wanna take a ride on dis rocket" (lmao ok. the 90s called and wants its slang back)

"we would love to get together with you sometime... i think we would have some really great fun.. and no strings attached..." (this from a bi-sexual couple.... my profile says I DO NOT WANT NSA and I'm looking for a man... proving once again that most here can't be bothered to get past a photo and read)

"I have been very naughty, and am in need of punishment. To be taught a lesson I should be stripped naked, leashed and collared, walked like a puppy dog. Lead over to the spanking table, properly restrained,(hands&feet),...then caned several times till my ass has been blistered. Then maybe some ass trainingrnrn---" (um YUCK!!! Is there ANYTHING in my profile that leads you to believe that would make me respond to you?)

"hello girl how are you. well my name is (name has been removed) and im looking for a down to earth girl that know how to party and know what she wants in the bedroom im a good guy in and out of the bedroom so email me back if you like what you see." (talk about a run-on sentence. Anyone who asks me if I want to party makes me think they're a drunken frat boy)

"oh my god !! this beauty zone stopped . you talk to a woman so beautiful and sexy is very important for me to. I very much wish" (someone's language translator didn't do a good job)

"Hello. Wish you well. May I say, I hope you are able to stop using recreational sgurd (read this backwards--Passion.com declined profile unless)? Life is short, you don't need that. I know your an adult, so I hope you don't mind me writing this?" (wanna tell me I'm going to hell for being on a sex site too? so I'm four twenty (again Passion.com profile police) friendly, what's it to you? Oh... and it's "you're" not "your")

"hi girl lets talk baby I eant to meet you to see wath hopend with as" (was this guy drunk when he wrote this?)

"Hi U didn't say anything about status. I'm mar but have OK 2 seek her replacement. Wanna live in PARADISE(Palm Desert)? I'm a young hard 60(61 8-20) I've got tix 4 ZZ TOP here 8-22. Bring your fine ass 2 the desert Fri. If we click, I may keep U 4ever." (WTF?)

OK so hope you're still reading... if you don't you'll end up as a quote in my profile so others can laugh at you

If you want my attention you will need to send an email. Stop winking at me and seduce me with your words! I rarely check winks and hotlists anyway. I apologize if you don't hear back from me right away... I get a good amount of emails and I will usually respond right away to someone I am NOT interested in (just to politely decline) but it may take me longer to respond to someone I might be interested in.

My Ideal Person: PLEASE READ CAREFULLY!!!!

• I'M NOT A COUGAR. I AM NOT A GOLD DIGGER WHO NEEDS A SUGAR DADDY. Looking for someone in my age range.
• NO MARRIED MEN
• Please have a picture of your FACE (or attach in your first email to me) A tiny dot of a head on a faraway body or wearing sunglasses does not count. Photos should be from within the last year. I can look at your past photos in your family album if we hit it off If you're in a Speedo and not at a swim meet... well let's just say it's a big turn off.
• One thing I am not fond of is facial hair. Scruff is fine on occasion but I like a clean face 99% of the time. Long hair belongs on women, not men.
• Spelling! Grammar! It doesn't have to be perfect but show me you made the effort. To start with, I'm more turned on by what's in your brain than how big your dick is. (see emails above which prompted me to say this)
• Don't start your first email with... “baby, my cock is so hot for you” or to that effect. Let's have a normal chat before you 'throw your cock at me,' please
• Don't tell me Passion.com matched us 100%. All it means is Gender, Distance, Relationship Goal, Drinking, Smoking, Body Type, Age, and Race matched. Hardly cause for excitement on anyone's part.
• Don't live out of my area. No interest in someone in town on business looking for NSA.
If anything I write compels you to be a jerk and tell me I am a beeyatch--keep it to yourself please--I am simply listing my preferences and I don't tell you how to live your life.
IF YOU DON'T HEAR BACK FROM ME--SEE ABOVE FOR REASONS WHY.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
U2, Sting/Police, Elton John, Frank Sinatra, Beatles,
Usher, Jason Mraz

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I have written a few erotic stories, but you will have to
wait until I meet you first. Would love to have a mfm.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Mutual Masturbation, Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Blindfolds, Massage, kissing, intellectual stimulation

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Half the cast of Ocean's 11 -13 lol. But I don't
really fantasize about them.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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