Have you ever felt the need to submit? Perhaps as a curiosity or as a way to express your inner heart's desire without the shame that society can bring. Your particular job might require you to be in total control and you just want to take a moment to break free and de-stress.. or you might already live this lifestyle with wild abandon! Whatever your situation I would like to hear from you.. Hi, my name is Ben and I'm an experienced man in the realm of BDSM. My preference is to dominate a consenting woman using words, touch, taste, and scent. I'm someone who feasts from another's reactions and for me one of the most erotic experiences is when someone gives me their trust.. It's just so beautifully intimate. The activities I'm experienced in giving are: bare handed spanking, flogging, caning, stripping, marking, asphyxiation, restraints, blindfolds, wax play, needles, knife play, and generally taking charge over a play partner. I have no interest in rope / shibari style play outside of watching other people do it. I prefer cuffs, shackles, and chains. Physically I'm 36 years old, Caucasian, 5'11 in height, slim, very long brown hair, and blue eyes. I attempt to keep myself active and I have my underarms and genital region shaved. The only body art I have is a frenum piercing. Mentally I'm an INTP type, primal, hedonistic, sadistic tendencies and liberal minded. For the sake of disclosure I live with depression however I do my utmost to not let this affect others. I love music (metal, rock, goth, classical, electro), cooking, reading, gaming (both board and video), and chocolate. Emotionally I'm polyamorous and I'm open about this. I have a long term partner who I don't have a BDSM relationship with (she works as a well known and respected pro domme), we are both poly and date separately. If we click then you are welcome to meet and speak with her, though we won't be involved as a triad or similar dynamic. For those people who are involved with the fetish scene, I run a play munch once a month in Worthing (near Brighton), and I also work for Torture Garden as a dungeon monitor for their London events. Aside from that I can often be found at London munches and Club Antichrist, if you see me around then do say hello : ) Hi, my name is Ben and I'm an experienced man in the realm of BDSM. My preference is to dominate a consenting woman using words, touch, taste, and scent. I'm someone who feasts from another's reactions and for me one of the most erotic experiences is when someone gives me their trust.. It's just so beautifully intimate. The activities I'm experienced in giving are: bare handed spanking, flogging, caning, marking, asphyxiation, restraints, blindfolds, wax play, needles, knife play, and generally taking charge over a play partner. I have no interest in rope / shibari style play outside of watching other people do it. I prefer cuffs, shackles, and chains. Physically I'm 36 years old, Caucasian, 5'11 in height, slim, very long brown hair, and blue eyes. I attempt to keep myself active and I have my underarms and genital region shaved. The only body art I have is a frenum piercing. Mentally I'm an INTP type, primal, hedonistic, sadistic tendencies and liberal minded. For the sake of disclosure I live with depression however I do my utmost to not let this affect others. I love music (metal, rock, goth, classical, electro), cooking, reading, gaming (both board and video), and chocolate. Emotionally I'm polyamorous and I'm open about this. I have a long term partner who I don't have a BDSM relationship with (she works as a well known and respected pro domme), we are both poly and date separately. If we click then you are welcome to meet and speak with her, though we won't be involved as a triad or similar dynamic. For those people who are involved with the fetish scene, I run a play munch once a month in Worthing (near Brighton), and I also work for Torture Garden as a dungeon monitor for their London events. Aside from that I can often be found at London munches and Club Antichrist, if you see me around then do say hello : )

My Ideal Person I am looking for real life meets so to be as concise as possible:

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For the first time then being able to meet in a public place is a must for a friendly getting to know each other and see if we click in the flesh (I'd recommend a munch event or club). We can decide if we want to be more intimate at a later stage.

Superficially I am sexually attracted to women with a slim to average body type who dress in an alternative way (goth, punk, fetish) however chemistry is everything to me so if it is mutually shared then it would be a shame not to explore that..

For play and / or sexual activities then I would first want to negotiate it in advance to cover things like boundaries, consent, health issues, safety procedures, and after care. While risk can never be completely eliminated it can be greatly reduced, so I'll need you to be able to effectively communicate your wants and needs (and you should expect the same of me).

I should also note that if it reaches that point then safe sex is essential and I am happy to take responsibility for that by using condoms.

As a final note, if you cannot message me here then I can be found on FetLife under the name Manflesh.

With warmth,

B.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
My fantasies usually involve something paranormal or
impossible, so they are not exactly practical! If I feel
at ease enough with you then I'll share. <br><br>
Otherwise I both enjoy and fantasise about skin on skin,
no condom sex (I love the feeling, sight, and taste of my
seed dripping out of a sated entrance) though this will
not happen without a shared level of trust. Until that point
then protection is used without question.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Fetishes, Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Cross Dressing, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Leather, Latex, Massage, Anal play

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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