It comes down to three little words:time,place,and person. If you're annoyed,tired,drunk,or otherwise incapacitated,it's the wrong time. It's the wrong place if it's haunted by unwelcome associations,too dirty for your taste,insufficiently private,or otherwise uncomfortable. And if it's the wrong person,all bets are off.

My Ideal Person The shrinks might say it this way:Forming intimate relationships is nearly impossible in the absence of high self-esteem. I'll say it more bluntlyt's hard to get a man to appreciate you when you don't feel worth appreciating. A healthy self-image means confidence in and of the bedroom and a sense of being worthy of love.