I'm fed up with relationships that just seem to bring stress - shouldn't a relationship be fun? For both people (or more...)? So, I'm looking for the impossible - and possibly in the wrong place - but at least here I can be honest about what I'd like and see if anyone else has the same desires. That seems like a good starting point for any relationship... So what am I looking for that's so impossible? Well, in the long run, a genuine soul mate (not asking much then). Someone who makes ME feel the way I want to make THEM feel. Special, happy, and very horny... So why on AFF and not a more standard dating site? Well, that's because when I have found that someone - I want to play! Don't misunderstand me... fidelity is EXTREMELY important to me (so married women who are on here without hubbies' permission need not apply) - but I want to have lots of fun, together. I've had an occasional relationship with a swinging couple for quite a few years, and as well as being great fun, I've also found that I'm hugely turned on by the relationship they have! They have huge fun, playing together and with others, and watching each other, and it doesn't undermine their relationship at all. Could that be you? Could you have a serious partner, and still be turned on by fucking other guys (only with his permission... knowing he wanted you to, and was getting a huge turn on out of it?). Could you do that, and still see him as your actual partner in a committed, possibly serious, possibly long-term relationship? Could you have a genuine, serious partner, that you really cared about, and then get turned on watching him play with someone else? Knowing that it doesn't change the fact that he's still YOUR partner? If the above sounds like it COULD be you, then maybe we could meet up for a coffee and see if there's any chemistry? Despite all the above, I am genuinely looking for something special - so I'm not looking to plunge straight into threesomes, foursomes and swinging parties ;-) I'd want to get to know each other first! For my part, I love to please, and like to experiment, so by all means bring your own wants/desires to the table, and If we get on I shall have fun trying to satisfy them...