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New to the Lifestyle. This Might help you Understand to a little better, some simple rules to always abide by and remember RESPECT is Most IMPORTANT!!!!!

The Golden Rule of all: "NO means absolutely NO"

During any swinging moment when anyone says "NO", regardless of any reason, no means to "STOP" all activities at once. No explanation are needed to be given as it would be understand.

Just because you do not want to jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle or that of your partner, but doing something against your own will because you are frighten of saying "no" is something you must not do.

The most polite way to say no is by saying, "No thank you, but appreciate you for asking". By doing so you are being honest to yourself and the person asking, plus you will also avoid any misunderstandings.

Treat others with respect, meaning be polite

If you want others to treat you with respect you treat others just the way you want to be treated. Club parties are suppose to be fun, by being rude and judgmental are not a cool way to go. So, just approach things politely.

Never assume anything, always ask

By making assumption, doesn't make you very popular at club parties. Popularity status start by making sure that you know where everyone priority stands before you do anything. If you don't the potential for embarrassment is the consequences.

Excessive Drinking

Don't be a fool and drink more then what your body can consume. Excessive drinking can impair your judgment as well as put you into a very embarrassing situation when sex is call for. So know your limits.

Dealing with Jealousy

Jealousy is very common, especially in swinging conditions. To avoid any jealousy from happening always arrive with your partner together, take the time to caress each other, stay close to your partner, touch base often which makes one feel secure and lastly always leave together.

If jealousy does occur cease all activities immediately and move yourselves to a quite place to discuss the problem. If the problem cannot be solve, then suggest leaving the party and work out your differences else where.

Never attempt to break up a marriage. Swingers don't participate in the lifestyle with the intention of finding a new mate so don't encourage it.

Form friendships. Becoming friends with other couples should be one of your objectives for participating in the Swinging Lifestyle. If you start to engage in a conversation with another couple that's interested in swinging with you, don't just simply focus on the partner you plan to play with.

Have quiet arguments. If you ever end up getting into an argument with your partner, make sure to have your discussion in private and away from the party.

Don't harass other couples. If another couple declines your offer for sexual play, don't ask "Why not?" Not only is it considered rude and juvenile, but it also puts the other couple in an awkward position. Even worse, they may actually tell you why not!

Don't get drunk. While a couple of drinks may help you loosen up, getting drunk is not a good idea. You will act like a fool and end up in situations that you might regret later on. If you are going to an event that is BYOB (bring your own booze), try not to bring too much liquor with you.

Always Use Protection. This is not to assume that all swingers have STD's, but it's always better to be safe than sorry. Always use a new condom with each partner, and make sure you put it on right. You can also choose to use a barrier for oral sex as well, along with condom usage, and require any prospective partners to do the same.

Deal with jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical and recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Discover what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but your relationship together is not worth jeopardizing over swinging.

Be kind, thoughtful, and sensitive. Use your common sense and good judgment when you are involved in a swinging situation. All swingers, including single males and females have feelings!

Honor any and all prior understandings and rules you have made between each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE with each other openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.

Respect the guidelines you set as a couple and communicate them to prospective partners. Open and honest communication is imperative to forming relationships. Don't forget to respect the guidelines of others, and don't try to talk them into changing the rules because you don't happen to agree with them!

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