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Blogs > normalisoktoo > alone with everybody

Joy... and Other Crazy Pursuits  

normalisoktoo 54M
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3/31/2015 2:14 pm
Joy... and Other Crazy Pursuits
I've been thinking about "happiness".

What does it take for you to be there? Or how do you make it for yourself or others?

"Content" is one thing -- "static"... "okay", but "happy"?

It has been elusive to me lately. The last time I was truly happy... I think I was playing frisbee with a friend that I haven't seen for over a decade. We were GREAT frisbee players. Ask anyone. We had hair halfway down our backs, and we smoked dope daily. We would send that disc into the air -- well over 80 yards between us -- and make performance art. Truly.

Stealing from Keith Richards:

"Well I never kept a dollar past sunset,
It always burned a hole in my pants.
Never made a school mama happy,
Never blew a second chance, oh no"

Mr. Richards is required-by-contract to sing two songs on stage when the Stones tour. This is so that Mick can change costumes -- and maybe slug a jigger or five.

Last time I saw them, he performed "Happy" -- and it brought me to elation. I love that song. You almost wouldn't even know it was the Stones if you heard it on the radio.

They had cannons that were launching rose petals. Pretty intense.

Anyway... happiness. Where does it come from? Where does it go?

I'm hip to biorhythms and ebb-and-flow but... I still wonder.

I was reading something about relishing in the moment because it will inevitably change. If it is a good moment, it will turn to bad eventually. If it is a bad moment, things will get better over time.

But can one stay happy throughout the process? I guess that is where I am stuck.

When things are depressing, should I be depressed? Or is it okay to have a smile on my face -- say, at a funeral?

And when things are going great? Is it okay to have a bad day? Bitch and moan and complain about this-and-that?

"Always took candy from strangers,
Didn't wanna get me no trade.
Never want to be like papa,
Working for the boss ev'ry night and day."

Keith is one of those that can (and HAS been able to) take anything that comes at him. Smiles for the camera, but ... "happy"? I dunno. Life is rough.

This is not a dissection of Mr. Richards.

Wanna know what makes ME happy? Stupid humor like this:



Because of the humor... not necessarily how amazing that woman's ass is. I just like to laugh... outloud.

Last verse and then I'm done here:

"Never got a flash out of cocktails,
When I got some flesh off the bone.
Never got a lift out of Lear jets,
When I can fly way back home."

The big word there is "HOME". To me. Here's the chorus:

"I need a love to keep me happy,
I need a love to keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy.
Baby, baby keep me happy."

That sounds so frickin' SIMPLE to me. Why is it so difficult?

tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
3/31/2015 7:39 pm

 Happiness is when you realize that you like what you have or where you are in life or for the moment. It can seem momentary, fleeting but it is always there waiting for you to realize it is there and reach out and grasp it.
Vive La Difference


normalisoktoo replies on 4/1/2015 9:44 am:
Interesting perspective. Thanks.

kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
4/1/2015 6:38 pm
    Quoting kathynj:
    Have you been reading Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha?

    Life is changeable grasshopper, it has always been so. Beauty fades, life begins, life ends, fortunes are made and lost. All life is suffering, suffering is not recognizing the changeability of life, go with the flow grasshopper.

    Buddha called it dukkha, The first noble truth and it is the nature of life.

    Master Po says: Let tears come, when your heart tells you of its sadness. Let joy come unasked, unplanned.

    I have no answers for you. Life is hard, it's best to recognize that and not expect happiness, comfort yes, contentment yes, but happiness, whatever that is, I don't go looking for it. But then again, if we were constantly happy and life was static, would we truly be happy or is the seeking that makes life fulfilling? I dunno...

    I usually find humor in most situations, even the darkest ones.

    Speaking of funerals, my brother and I were going to our uncle's funeral and as we entered the funeral home, he says to me, I better turn off my phone -- my ringtone is, "another one bites the dust"! We laughed so hard and probably made a spectacle of ourselves. That's kinda the way my life goes.
What she said. /\
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