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Blogs > hotdreamer1000 > While I was Dreaming

Happy New Year, (And Sad )  

hotdreamer1000 64M
8682 posts
1/6/2014 4:50 am

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12/16/2014 3:02 am
Happy New Year, (And Sad )

Well happy New Year to you all. But before I find time to go back and reply to all your lovely comments on my previous blog, I have a sadness to report.

I had been following a blog by a woman with the user name "Smokeandsuck." We had also sent a few emails through this site back and forth. Nothing romantic or sexual, but this had been going on for a while and we seemed to be making a friendship.

According to my inbox she sent me an email on December 20th, but I have not logged in since I posted my Christmas messages just before that, and now, I can not read her email, because she has deactivated her account. (I don't know if this is a new thing, that all old conversations disappear if that person deactivates, because I don't get that many emails, and the new email system which shows emails as part of a conversation hasn't been going that long. )

So presumably, she either was sending me an address to keep in contact, or possibly saying goodbye and letting me know her account was going to be deactivated. Whatever, she may now think that I have ignored her, which of course I didn't. I find that sad, partly because one of the things she complained about in her blog was how men often lose interest in her when they get to know her better, and of course I don't want her to mistakenly think that of me, not just because I don't want her to think badly of me, but because it might make her sad.

There is nothing whatever I can do about this, and I am sure I will get over it quickly of course, but all the same, right now, I am a little sad about life.

UPDATE:
I was pleasantly surprised to find smokeandsuck's blog was still running, and her last post gives her reasons for leaving the site - she's resolved issues with her man and is really happy with life, which is great news. So I'm frustrated not to be able to read her email to me, but I have been able to leave a comment - it may never be read, but even if it isn't I can be content that no misunderstood silence from me is likely to mess up her current happiness, so it is now officially Happy New Year in Dreamerland!!!!

Violette001 52F
4619 posts
1/6/2014 7:05 am

 oh, i feel that burning sensation of frustration... i hate it so

i hope you're able to get in touch with her somehow... any other friends you had in common who she might've also left a contact info with?
"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
1/6/2014 12:33 pm
    Quoting  :
See the update! So I don't know if we'll be able to re-connect, but at least I know she is happy, and that makes me happy too.

Really glad you and H are having such a great time too. Love is all around in 2014!


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
1/6/2014 12:35 pm
    Quoting Violette001:
    oh, i feel that burning sensation of frustration... i hate it so

    i hope you're able to get in touch with her somehow... any other friends you had in common who she might've also left a contact info with?
See the update. If the blog hadn't been there I probably wouldn't have known anyone who had been in contact with her, no. But now I at least know what happened, the frustration feeling is less. If she is happy, I can live without knowing what she wrote me, and maybe she'll see my comment and get back in touch.


hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
1/6/2014 12:37 pm
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Not the site's fault this time I don't think. See the update. It would be good if we get to re-connect, but at least now I can be happy that she is having a good time.


MyNameIsKay 62F  
11887 posts
1/7/2014 8:24 pm

 This has happened many times before...when someone leaves the site, their e-mails disappear with them. I don't remember if it happened before the switch to the new message center, but I know it's been that way from the start of the new "conversation" center. It is frustrating because I'm sure the person leaving hasn't been aware that this is going to happen...not unless they've seen it themselves in their own message center.

I'm glad you were able to post a message in her blog, even though it may not be seen. I don't like unfinished business...
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hotdreamer1000 64M
12409 posts
1/8/2014 10:26 am
    Quoting MyNameIsKay:
    This has happened many times before...when someone leaves the site, their e-mails disappear with them. I don't remember if it happened before the switch to the new message center, but I know it's been that way from the start of the new "conversation" center. It is frustrating because I'm sure the person leaving hasn't been aware that this is going to happen...not unless they've seen it themselves in their own message center.

    I'm glad you were able to post a message in her blog, even though it may not be seen. I don't like unfinished business...
I know - it grates doesn't it. It is bad enough when someone disappears without telling you they are going - I remember the first time that happened to me I was really quite upset, because that kind of thing doesn't really happen in real life and I was surprised. But I have kind of got used to that now, and actually, I can't think of anyone I have really interacted with who has done that to me for ages.

But if they have actually taken the trouble to say goodbye, or whatever, before leaving, it's a shame not to be able to read it! Oh well, onwards........


hippiechick1967 60F  
13154 posts
1/13/2014 7:34 pm

 She has only turned off her profile, not deleted her account, so she may be back. You know how things go around here.
Elevate me...


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